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Why would a spouse cheat if the marriage is good?

08.06.2025 02:34

Why would a spouse cheat if the marriage is good?

Grass looks green elsewhere - begins the cheating - And to get what - ? SEX.

so begins the first step heading towards separation and divorce which becomes the battle ground- my TV - my sofa - my bed - my - my - my ……..

Millions of excuses - Reasons - constant fighting - arguments- And always something wrong with the other- no self reflection -

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

For exciting and intensely satisfying sex that is deprived or denied or not understood of each other's needs - quick judgments " My husband watches porn " If it's not porn - it's his drinking - he spends more time with his friends- he doesn't share the work around the house - he doesn't talk - doesn't respect my family - not working enough - Headaches - Fibromyalgia- TMJ - size - ED and the list grows from a page to a size of 2 PDR's.

Point being - Marriage seems to be good to others - it's not - it has no passion in it - and two people come to live together as room mates and share their expense - to keep their secret from others the lips get sealed - of having separate beds and separate accounts

Nothing perfect - It's not acceptable if it's not perfect - but only the other one !

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My own imperfections is not the reason - you see …. !